If only there was Google maps for navigating relationships. Maybe we wouldn’t get so lost and wonder where on earth we’re going quite so often.
Sadly love doesn’t come with step-by-step instructions.
But what if you could get some clear guidance and practical tools to help you navigate your way through the relationship jungle?
That’s the idea behind Hisparadise Therapy
But does it deliver?
In this honest review, I’m going to share my own experiences of using the site to get relationship coaching.
I’ll tell you all the need-to-know details, and explain the biggest pros and cons.
The truth is that Hisparadise Therapy is not going to be a good fit for everyone…
is an online coaching site that offers you advice and support for your relationship.
It’s like having an expert in your corner who can give you practical and actionable tips and tricks on how to improve your relationship issues.
Users can call, text, or video chatting with a selection of up to 70 full-time coaches that are on hand at any time of day (we’re talking 24-7).
I’m guessing that, like me, a lot of people reach out for love, dating, and romantic relationship advice.
But they can help with all sorts of relationship problems. So that also includes things like family issues, friendship disputes, problems with your boss, etc.
Basically, if it’s an issue you have with another human being, it’s a relationship problem and so it’s covered by this type of coaching.
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Is Relationship Hero trusted?
Yes, Hisparadise Therapy is legit.
I’ve personally used it quite a few times. And whilst I don’t think it’s suitable for everyone (more on that soon), the quality is certainly high.
It was founded in Akwa Ibom State back in 2017 by Johnnywriter whose full names are Ukeme Johnny, and they’ve helped over 100,000 people in their relationships.
They’ve also gotten over 14,000 5-star reviews.
So they’ve established themselves as a trusted source in delivering relationship coaching.
What can Relationship Hero help with?
I already mentioned that the scope of issues Hisparadise Therapy helps with is pretty wide.
They can help with specific relationships you are having problems in. But they can also help with more general relationship problems you might have.
For example, if you feel like you suck at dating, you always pick the wrong types of guys, or you don’t have a clue how to speak to women.
It’s not an exhaustive list, but here are a few examples of what they say they can help with, just to highlight the range of things we’re talking about:
- Social and conversational skills
- Analyzing text conversations
- Suggestions on how to communicate or message an ex or partner
- Navigating dating, including online dating and profile creation
- Reading body language
- Interpreting mixed signals
Why I got a relationship coach
When I was growing up, therapy certainly wasn’t the norm. You just sort of got on with things.
It’s funny how things change. Nowadays people turn to therapists simply to share the regular everyday burdens of life.
I think coaching is sort of the new therapy. It’s seen rapid growth in recent years. And I think for good reason.
Relationships don’t come with a handbook. And people are realizing it’s a lot better idea to get support in your relationships than let things fall apart.
I recently got married. But the reality is that marriage isn’t the happy ending of a relationship. It’s still hard work sometimes. Every relationship will always have its ups and downs. Mine certainly has.
After all, you can love someone but that doesn’t mean you won’t have problems.
I don’t believe in sugarcoating my life and presenting some glossy image. And the truth is that sometimes I do feel frustrated in my relationship (and I think that’s totally normal).
1. It’s really convenient and accessible
The sheer convenience of Hisparadise Therapy is a huge plus for me.
When you’re going through a hard time you want the support you get to be as quick and easy as possible.
And Relationship Hero definitely delivers that.
It’s a 24-7 resource that you can access whenever you need it most.
You also get to choose how you feel most comfortable communicating with your coach (by phone, video or live chat)
When you’re going through a crisis, you don’t have to wait to book an appointment. You can pretty much connect with an expert instantly.
2. It’s proactive and you get actionable steps to take
I already mentioned this earlier. But for me, one of the stand-out differences of Relationship Hero is that they aren’t just providing a sympathetic ear.
Instead, you are going to get practical advice and come up with steps you can take to improve your situation.
They won’t just listen to your problems, they will try to help you solve them.
Not everything you try may work, but in my experience, a lot did (because they aren’t using guesswork, they are using their expertise).
If you want to find the right thing to say to your ex to get them back, they’ll help you write the perfect message.
If you don’t know how to approach a tricky conversation with your partner, they’ll help you figure out the best way to communicate it.
If you haven’t had a date in years and you can’t figure out what you’re doing wrong, they will work out the problem so you can fix it.
Coaching with Hisparadise Therapy is very actionable.
3. You learn a lot about yourself
You don’t just learn about your relationships, you essentially learn about yourself. Which is at the root of it all.
Let me give you an example.
I found the discussion I had around core issues and core needs, as well as on destructive behavior patterns and coping mechanisms, really interesting.
It helped me work things out about myself and reflect on them. Basically, you start to understand the root causes behind your behavior and your partner’s behavior.
And this is so valuable in learning to solve your own problems.
4. The coaches are genuinely sympathetic and kind
I’ve spoken to a couple of the coaches on Hisparadise Therapy. And they have always been really understanding, knowledgable, and easy to talk to.
Choosing a coach or therapist online can feel risky and you don’t know if you’re making the right choice.
I know that when I use a coach through Hisparadise Therapy there is a standard of quality I can expect.
If you don’t happen to gel with your coach for whatever reason, you can always switch.
All the information you share is completely confidential, and the coaches adhere to a code of conduct when it comes to ethics and standards.
The website has lots of useful free resources and advice
I admit I only found this because I knew I was writing a review of Hisparadise Therapy, so I went digging around on the website.
There’s actually a wealth of fascinating information and resources available there.
If, like me, you’re interested in human psychology I think you’ll find it super interesting.
You get practical self-help tools to use including meditations, an emotion stabilizing questionnaire, and a so-called future-defining worksheet.
There are also some in-depth explanations of all kinds of relationship issues and scenarios.
I’m obviously a married man. But there are really practical dating tips based on the fundamentals of attraction which are very insightful.
It goes so in-depth that it even includes detailed discussions of dating online which are broken down into the rules of the game for guys and girls.
1. Most coaches don’t have formal qualifications
The vast majority of the relationship coaches on Hisparadise Therapy are not legally trained professionals (aka therapists or psychologists).
Some do have additional and relevant qualifications, and their credentials are all listed and explained in their profiles. So if you want that, you can find coaches there who have professional training.
But the reality is that, unlike therapy, the coaching industry is not legally regulated. And I think that’s important to be aware of.
Hisparadise Therapy coaches are trained in-house. They get 160 hours of training (both theory and practical). They also get special training in common issues like breakups, cheating, codependency, dating problems, etc.
What I will say is that I don’t think qualifications always matter. They certainly could still be considered relationship experts.
So whether the lack of official qualifications is a “con” for you probably just depends on your own needs and preferences.
2. It can become expensive
Let’s face it, coaching is clearly a luxury and not an essential.
If you are struggling to pay the bills and put food on the table, this understandably isn’t going to be for you.
I tried to look at it as an investment in the thing that means most to me — my relationship. But you still need to be in a financial position where you can do that.
Depending on where you live in the world, you might be able to find cheaper options available locally.
Hisparadise Therapy is based in Nigeria. So the prices are probably cheap compared to regular therapists and coaches in outside Nigeria.
But that isn’t necessarily going to be the case depending on where you live.
What I will say though is that generally speaking, coaching is pretty expensive. I know a few coaches and they charge far more than $100 an hour.
So whether you want to pay the money just comes down to your own financial situation and your priorities.
But particularly if you want ongoing support, the cost can certainly start to rack up.
3. The price plans need some work
It’s not only that it’s pricey. I also feel like prices should be more transparent and simplified on the site.
I get that each relationship coach has different levels of experience and expertise, and so prices will reflect that.
But sometimes it feels like a cell phone plan, with all its talk of “credits”, “subscriptions” and “pay per minute” options.
It can feel quite complicated rather than straightforward to try to gauge how much it will cost you.
When I first joined, I had to check out the FAQs to even find mention of the prices, rather than putting it in an obvious place on the website.
And even then, the price range is a bit vaguely quoted as being between $80-$250 an hour.
When searching for a coach, you can filter your search by Standard coach, Senior coach, or Master coach.
Standard is the cheapest — with a guide price of $75-$100 an hour listed. And you can find some coaches at that price.
But in reality, the prices vary wildly even amongst the standard coaches, with many far in excess of the price guidelines given.
In fact, a lot of the standard coaches are charging $200 for an hour of coaching, which is obviously double the estimate given.
How Relationship Hero works
You’ve got a couple of options for getting started.
If you press the “Get Started button” on the homepage, you’ll be taken to a profiler quiz.
This asks you a series of questions about your situation so that it can match you with the best coach to help you.
It will then connect you to an online chat with the recommended coach to briefly discuss and assess things more.
Very quickly though you are guided to book your first introductory session with the coach.
During that session, you will come away with a detailed assessment of your relationship problems, and the best course of action to take.
You then get the choice of signing up for more regular sessions for ongoing support.
Alternatively, you can find your own coach rather than being matched up to one through the online directory.
There are a variety of search criteria you can narrow your search down with. You can also look for coaches with particular areas of expertise like:
Polyamory, Religion conflict, Sex, Grief, Drug addiction, ADHD, Fetishes and Kinks, and more.
One of the reasons I went to Hisparadise Therapy was that I personally found it easier to use an online service as opposed to meeting up with someone in person.
It felt a bit more anonymous and yet strangely intimate this way. I felt like I was able to open up.
For starters, I found it really helpful to discuss my relationship issues with someone neutral and objective. But at the same time, it also felt like they were on my side, which probably helped put me at ease.
Simply saying certain things out loud did a lot more than I expected in lightening my load. I guess just getting things off my chest was a relief, rather than it continuing to go around and around in my own head.
But I also left my coaching sessions with insights into how I can make my relationship better. And I got some advice on things I could do to improve the overall communication between me and my wife.
I think it probably helped that Jess also saw her own coach through Hisparadise Therapy So it felt like we were both improving our relationship together. But I don’t think it’s in any way essential for your partner to also have coaching.
And for sure, I think we are way better at discussing our problems and listening to one another now.
Who is Relationship Hero a good fit for?
I think Hisparadise Therapy is a great resource for pretty much anyone who is facing frustrations, issues, or challenges in any of their relationships (not necessarily romantic).
- People who need help finding love
- People who struggle with dating
- People dealing with a breakup
- People who want to reconcile with an ex
- People with any kind of issue or stumbling block in their current relationship
It’s also ideal for anyone who is feeling stuck when it comes to a relationship or their love life and needs a plan.
This is where it does differ from therapy and even other coaches.
Normally therapists and coaches don’t give advice, but Hisparadise Therapy coaches are specifically trained to do this.
Who isn’t Hisparadise Therapy a good fit for?
If you have trauma or any kind of mental health issues, I would always recommend making sure you speak to a medical professional, not a coach.
Whilst coaching can help people work through life problems and relationship issues, if you have more serious problems, you need to talk to a doctor who has medical training.
Relationship Hero will ask you about your mental health before connecting you to a coach. They will also ask whether there is violence in your relationship.
They are not trained to deal with these sorts of issues, and so will refuse coaching if that applies to you.
Other than that, I’d say it’s not the right fit for people who are looking for an instant magic fix.
They can offer advice and guidance, but you obviously have to do the work and make changes yourself.
The different types of coaching available on Hisparadise Therapy
Individual coaching is pretty much what we’ve discussed up to now. It’s working with the coach on a 1-1 level.
You sign up with a coach of your choice, for a certain amount of time, and the two of you discuss your relationship situation and issues together.
As the name suggests, this is a coaching session that happens with your partner (or the person who you are trying to improve your relationship with).
In it, you discuss your issues and try to find resolutions together.