Euphoric and Dysphoric Phases in Marriage

Despite all the hype of marriage theories, stories, and feminists, the reasons for marriage are the same. In fact, there has been a reversal of responsibilities and new stereotypes have emerged. However, biological, physiological and biochemical facts are rarely as relevant as modern critiques of culture. Men are always men and women are always women.

A man and a woman are married to create:

Sexual Dyad – To satisfy your sexual partner’s preferences and ensure you are confident, consistent and approachable through sexual satisfaction. Economy Mate – A mate is a business organization that handles the affairs of mate members and additional members. Financial firms make more money than they spend, and a combination of members can result in higher productivity and productivity compared to personal effort and investment.

Social dyad – Members of multiple contracts due to social interference, explicit or not, direct or indirect. Hearts like this can take many forms. In Judaism, you can only have a religion if you are married. It’s a form of big business.

For most people, professional singles are considered social and extraordinary. They are persecuted, insulted, discriminated against, excluded and excluded from the community. Partly to avoid these limitations and partly to enjoy the emotional toll that comes from harmony and acceptance.

There are many lifestyles today. The old-fashioned nuclear family is just one of many variations. The children are brought up by the parents alone. The parents love each other and are rich. However, the models are valid. Nearly 95% of seniors will end up doing it. They are formalized and judged according to two human systems, whether religious or legal. Companionship Dyad – Developed by seniors looking for long term, reliable, warm, caring, caring and social support. The members of this couple like to define themselves as best friends.

Conventional wisdom says that the first three pairs are not stable.

Sexual attractiveness is low and is often replaced by sexual weakness. This can lead to negative sexual behaviors (sexual abstinence, group sex, homosexuality, etc.) or repetitive maintenance behaviors. Financial problems are also not a sufficient basis for maintaining a long-term relationship. In today’s world, two partners can have financial independence. This new discovery touches on the roots of the ancestral-presidential-disciplinary relationship. Marriage has become a business venture that contributes to the welfare and well-being of children and couples.

So marriage is the only reason money is easily broken down like any other joint venture. It’s true, happy relationships help maintain family relationships and security. But such an external marriage is more closed than voluntary and involuntary.

Moreover, the culture of relationships, peer relationships and relationships cannot be relied upon to become stabilizers and buffers on a regular basis. Patterns change and great friends can be reversed (“If my friends are divorced and I’m really happy, why not try it?”).

Only cooperation seems to last. Friendships grow stronger over time. Sex loses its original biochemistry-induced brilliance, when the target industry is reversed or inaccurate and the structure of the relationship does not change. Unity is like wine like time.

Even in the most desperate country, in the harshest and most cunning environment, the seeds of a stable friendship can shatter and crack.

There is a testimony from the Jews that “peace exists in heaven”, but hundreds of years ago the Jewish rivals did not pledge to lend to the hand of God. After careful consideration of the stories of the two candidates, male and female, the marriage was announced. In other cultures, marriage is arranged by the future father or the real father without the consent of the embryo or the baby.

Surprisingly, marriage lasts longer than marriage which is the result of romantic love. Also, the longer you live together before marriage, the more likely you are to divorce. Paradoxically, romantic relationships and relationships (“best relationships”) are negative predictions and marriage predictions.

The partnership was born out of friction and interference in an informal plan (not “leakage”). In many marriages where divorce is not an option (whether legally or due to financial or relationship values), the partner is unhappy and satisfied if unhappy.

Relationships are the product of compassion and empathy. It is based on shared circumstances, fears and misery. It teaches the desire to protect and defend oneself from the trials of life. Behavioral development. If lascivious sex is on fire, then relationships are old shoes. Simple, static, useful, warm and safe.

Experiences and past experiences show that people connect with each other quickly and accurately. It is a reflex linked to survival. As a baby we came with another mother and the mother came with us. Without relationships, we are young. We have to contract and make others depend on us to survive.

The cycle of marriage (and after marriage) is full of ups and downs. These “transformations” create the challenges of friendship, sisterhood, intermarriage (marriage), and productivity.

The basis for this change in behavior is found in the context we associate with marriage. Marriage is real, irreversible and irreversible, and is seen as a major entry into adulthood. Past ordinances (Jewish bar mitzvah, Christian communion and many other cultures elsewhere) are only part of our preparation for the wonder we try to bring to our parents. . During the first years of life, we like to see our parents as omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent demigods. Our perception of them, ourselves and the world is magical. Every animal, including ourselves and our caregivers, is interactive, constantly interacting and interacting with each other (“like change”).

Therefore, in the beginning, parents are the best. Then, when we are dissatisfied, we go internal and become the first and most important of the inner voices that guide our lives. As we grow (teenagers), we learn to rebel against our parents (ultimately self-creation), accept them and trust them when needed.

But the demonic heritage of our children never dies, nor remains. They hide in our superego, which is in constant discussion with other models of our behavior. They criticize, analyze, comment and criticize constantly. The soundtrack of this soundtrack is a historical publication of our own Big Bang. So the decision to marry (to lead our parents) is to attack and seduce the gods, to despise, to deny the life of our ancestors, and to sanctify the sanctuary of our year of establishment. It’s a huge betrayal and all the struggles that go to the core of our character.

Inevitably, we (forget) shudder in the hopes of the imminent and probably enough to convince us of this presumption of singularity. It is the first negative thing that causes our minds to prepare before marriage. A response plan has a full cost. In other words, the multitude of important and now inactive protective mechanisms opened up: denial, reversal, abuse and speculation. This fear of self is the result of an internal conflict. On the other hand, we know that living as a hermit (biologically and psychologically) is bad for our health. As time passes, we need to quickly find a partner. Meanwhile, there are thoughts of impending doom described above.

Overcome the stress at the start, overcome your inner rebel (or your main focus, your guide depends on your parents’ strengths), and get through the short time that Congratulations on your personal discovery and separation. To recharge, we feel prepared for the court and to judge our future friends.

But our conflicts are never resolved. They are just sleeping.

Marriage is a danger on the road. Many people react to this by limiting themselves to known and unacceptable behavior and thought patterns and by ignoring or not seeing their feelings. Little by little, marriages become hollow and wither.

Some people seek solace in their community, country, language, race, culture, language, background, profession, relationship, or other uses, such as education. Staying in this group makes you feel safe.

Many people offer two possible solutions. More than 80% of marriages are between members of the same community, profession, race, religion and birth rate. It is not a chronological analysis. It describes memory and (often) the choice of forgetting.

The next phase of semi-annual malaise occurs when we try to get (agree) a partner to complete. Daydreams are easier and more enjoyable than the amazing visual lens. Ordinary life is the enemy of love and hope. When the dream ends, the reality weighs heavy with astonishment.

Engagement of your future spouse is an irreversible and increasingly difficult process. Marriage should not only be an investment consideration, but also a financial investment and a relationship. Many are afraid of promises and feel imprisoned, enslaved or threatened. The immediate marriage seems final. Even marriages full of hope sometimes haunting and nurturing doubts. The strength of these negative feelings depends on the extent of the parental and family life pattern they experience. The more dysfunctional the first families – the first (and most often the only) examples – the greater the feeling of being trapped and therefore of paranoia and repulsion.

However, most people overcome this fear and strengthen their relationship through marriage. This solution, the success of religion, is the way to make a house look like a marriage house after marriage.

Meanwhile, euphoria is often the response to relationships. The newly recognized status quo (“marriage law”) has the advantage of privacy and support, some of which has been incorporated into law. Financial benefits, social acceptance, family support, jealousy of others, and the hope and joy of marriage (free sex, procreation, no parenthood or parenting, newfound independence) are another beautiful challenge to feel inspired. .

Managing your new “lebensraum”, your spouse and your personal life, makes you happy and full of energy. It boosts self-confidence, self-esteem and helps with self-management. This is the manic phase. Now everything seems possible. Now let it go on your device and get support from your spouse.

With luck and a good partner, this feeling can last. But this happiness diminishes as the depression of life sets in, obstacles accumulate, sorted by circumstances, and time passes steadily. Reduce energy reserves and make decisions. Gradually, a person slips into incredible feelings (either anhedonia or melancholy). Everyday life, everyday features, the difference between dreams and reality engulf the first explosion. Life close to life is closed. This stress leads to relationships. They like to scold their spouse for their self-abduction. People with allogeneic defenses (position of external control) blame others for their failings and failings. You will have many feelings of violating your freedom, returning to your parents’ nest and annulling your marriage. It’s both frightening and exciting. Once again, panic sets in. The conflict gives a bad image of the head. Cognitive dissonance abounds. Inner turmoil leads to irresponsible, self-defeating and self-destructive behaviors. A lot of marriages end here in what is known as the “seven year itch”.

Next awaits parenthood. Many marriages survive only because of the presence of common offspring.

One cannot become a parent unless and until one eradicates the internal traces of one’s own parents. The consequence of a father’s suicide and the inevitable murder of a mother is painful and dangerous. However, achieving these critical milestones all pays off equally and leads to a sense of renewal, a new need, an understanding of everything, and so on, any kind of magical feeling.

In their search for a way out of their stress and anxiety, both members of the couple (if they still have the desire to “save” their couple) can run towards the same idea, but in different directions.

Women (in part because of culture and the culture being socialized) find ways to promote relationships, build relationships and turn them into long-term commitment as a beautiful and rewarding way to put relationships together. children in the world. Pregnancy, childbirth and parenthood are recognized as the ultimate expressions of her femininity. Men’s perception of parenthood is more complex. At first, he perceives the baby (at least subconsciously) as other restrictions and can “pull him deeper” into the bog. This discomfort intensifies and turns into a state of full-fledged panic. Then it lowers and you feel awe and wonder. Emotional desire to follow some parents (for children) and some (for their parents) children. The early stages of breeding and development will only support the concept of “time warping”.

Childbirth is difficult. It takes a lot of time and energy. It is a heavy burden. It denies the identity, relationships and needs of parents. Newborns present a disaster in their own right that can lead to severe trauma. The weight of relationships is enormous. Either it disappears or it resurrects with new challenges and difficulties.

A happy moment of collaboration and sharing, fostering collaboration and later love. Except for a few miracles, all are saved. The child becomes the source of narcissistic projections, hopes and fears. Too much is given and invested in the baby, and in the beginning, the baby recovers from everyday problems, dysfunctions, failures, disappointments and all kinds of relationship damage.

However, the child’s responsibilities are temporary. The most autonomous, the most familiar, the least naive, the least rewarding and the most frustrating. When infants become teenagers, many couples break up, and their members break up, break up, and break up. Milestones have been set for the next major stressor, the quarantine issue.

This is the essence of the crisis of counting, of the crisis of the commodity, of the crisis of dissatisfaction, of the consciousness of death. How little we have achieved, how little we have given up, how much we hope, how far we have come, how unprepared we are, how meaningless our marriage is How can I look to see if it helps or nope.

For the confused average man, his life is a fake, the village of Potemkin, the appearance of corruption and decay sinks it is important. This seems to be the last chance to reclaim the lost lands and fight again. A godfather from the youth of another (boyfriend, student or colleague, his child) tries to rebuild his life, but in vain to create and avoid the same error.

This trauma is exacerbated by the “nest hole” syndrome (when children grow up and leave their parents’ house). Thus, the notion of catalyst and interaction catalyst disappears. Thousands of intermarriages show the gaps in relationships that termites have spawned.

This gap can lead to understanding and support. But that rarely happens. Most couples have lost faith in the power of reunion and find their relationship buried under a mountain of anger, regret and sadness.

Both want to leave. and they leave. The vast majority of married people return to communion rather than love, to communion rather than experimentation, and to preparation rather than renewal. It was a sight to behold. As mental illness sets in, the couple turn to the ultimate nuisance: old age and death.

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